Ok now all those who actually are stay at home moms, have a good laugh right now, I’ll wait.
Truth be told, I’m busier now as a stay at home mom than I ever was as a working mom. Seems counter intuitive at first but I think a lot of it has to do with what I choose to do with my time.
For example, my mom was a stay at home mom but she had a good bit of free time to play video games. The house stayed really clean, and I can’t remember much from how we were as toddlers but I know in our school age days my mom had it pretty easy. We went to public school so really her day was getting us to and from school plus any doctor appointments we may have had, to and from lessons and sports practices, cooking dinner, tidying up the house, etc. Even though she had decent free time, it SOUNDS way busy.
And I do more.
Take today for example. I had my alarm set for 8, but Mark woke up at 7:30. I told him to lay down and managed to keep him in bed till 8:15. I was still exhausted but I dragged myself out of bed. This him to go wake Lilly up (basically a busy task to hopefully keep him out of trouble while I got ready). Tossed on my clothes, brushed my hair, put on a bit of makeup and such, and washed the sink off. All in all less than ten minutes. Then out to face the troops, Luke in arms.
First thing I see is Lilly standing at the kitchen counter on her tablet. Three feet beside her Mark is playing in the powdered sugar, a fact to which she is completely oblivious. I get onto her about being oblivious. She gets Mark down and cleans up the mess a bit. I started making coffee and tell Lilly to start making oatmeal for breakfast. I gripe about my coffee cup disappearing since yesterday… Like almost all my dishes have been lost or broken. I seriously need to get some more. I tell Jordan to go wake up Sierra. By this point all kids are up. I remind Lilly to start oatmeal since she’s still playing on her tablet.
I have Sierra fetch me a diaper for Luke and a clean outfit while I’m stripping him out of his wet stuff. I’m a bad mom. I don’t change him at night, only right before bed. Sleep is important. I justify pointing to myself that all my boys pee their diapers immediately after they’re changed. I ask Lilly to change Mark at the same time. We get the boys changed and I nurse Luke. I have Jordan fetch laundry and Lilly gets it started then serves up the oatmeal to the kids. I have a cup of coffee. No time for food. Too mainstream.
About this time (9:30) Shane gets up. Kids are done with oatmeal so I issue their kitchen clean up orders. During this time I’ve been checking email, checking appointments that may be upcoming, seeing if I need to make any phone calls, and sending a bit of time playing games on my tablet.
After Shane wakes up we address issues from the day before that require Daddy discipline. After issues are addressed, I’m still micromanaging kids cleaning the kitchen. Jordan finds my coffee cup! It would probably be faster if I did it myself but first off I’m lazy lol (not really) and second off it’s good for kids to develop a sense of responsibility. I start prepping my tablet for school, opening up my lesson planner, kindle books, and Google books. I record attendance for the day. I start to gather kids for school after they finish their last few bits in the kitchen correctly when Shane calls me into the bedroom. He needs to talk about our house plans. I found a really cool one this morning that was within our means and was the right size, in a decent area, and looks decent in the pictures. So we spend some time in the room discussing the plan, making texts, calls etc. We call about the pre approval too since it’s been a couple of days since the application was submitted. We decide he’ll take the car to work today instead of carpooling so he can run some errands before work. Finally our mini meeting breaks up. I refresh my coffee.
Kids are basically done. The floor needs a good mopping but the teens will do that tonight after dinner. I’m only like 45 minutes late starting school. Kind of a record for me. Lilly already did her bible (today was done copywork verses about the birth of Jesus) so I send her to her room for her music lesson – today it’s working on her singing by playing The Voice on her tablet. I read the little guys a snippet of their bible story. They have the attention span of a peanut so I read for less than five minutes. Today was the second part of a story about Jonah. Afterwards, Sierra gets her handwriting sheet and her math sheet (freemath.com) and the boys watch the ABC song on YouTube by have fun teaching. They’re entranced, singing and dancing for all of the three minutes the song lasts. I give David his last assignment for the day – an alphabet coloring sheet, and give Jordan his worksheet, CIMT math first year. Then Luke gets fussy and won’t nurse so I knew it’s time to fart the baby. Before I go, I give Lilly her grammar sheet with brief instructions and tell her to read the next chapter of Little Women and the online chapter summary. I spend the next little while massaging Luke’s belly helping him fart. A few trumpets later and he’s falling asleep.
It’s around 11 now. I help Jordan with the rest of his math sheet and read him a story from a book he picked, Spooky Stories. After, he picks up quickly with a little bit of fuss but then goes outside with David. I have Lilly and Sierra cycle the laundry, tidy up anything else that got pulled out by the boys while I was doing house stuff, and then verify what they’ve finished for school. I have Lilly change Mark and put shoes on him and send them out with the boys while I read a chapter of Cuffy Bear and work on a lesson from the McGuffey Primer with Sierra. Then we read a page from the snake book we started yesterday and she does Xtra Math on the tablet. Then I send her outside.
Finally it’s quiet inside for all of half a second. Me and Shane hang out on the bed, playing with Luke who is awake now. He heads out for work and errands. Around 12:30 or so the kids come in from pe. I show Lilly how to do her math work and give her her worksheet. Then I direct them towards leftovers for lunch. I get some leftover fries and chicken salad. I know I know.. Super healthy right? At least they’re homemade! I promise kids some leftover coffee cake or apples if they finish their leftovers. They eat quickly and get both coffee cake and apples. Mark starts to pass out in his high chair. It’s almost 2. Luke is already asleep in bed, and I put Mark in bed after he’s changed. He passes out right away. Small favors…
I start directing kids to pick up. They are really bad mess makers and they’re old enough not to be so Shane and I are trying to be really consistent about then cleaning up the messes they make. This might make it seem like I’d have less to do but the micromanaging takes so much time it’s crazy. But I’m looking to the future when they can clean up their own messes fairly easy with little input from me. There is some minor fussing and complaining but I keep them on task. Finally it’s more or less clean. I send Jordan, David, and Sierra to nap. We have started a new thing… I’d they act like little terrors the night before they have to take a nap the next day. They hate naps. David priests first and loudly so I send him to bed first with the intention he fall asleep before I send Jordan to nap so they don’t play. I have Sierra and Jordan tidy the den they messed up while I wait. Finally I send them to bed, leave Lilly with the remainder of her school with, just math and a history lapbook piece plus a game she can play on her tablet. It’s around 2:30. I thought I’d try to catch a nap while everyone was asleep.
No go. Five to ten minutes later I get a text from Lilly saying Jordan and Sierra were up and trying too wake up David. I go in there and threaten then with the wrath of doom if they don’t go take their naps. It gets quiet. I try and nap but it’s no use. The teens are due home from school in like five minutes and I knew they’ve got questions about the house. So I get up as they get home and we talk about the house we’re currently looking at. I follow up with Lilly about school and she finishes up.
I check my games again for about fifteen minutes. Jordan wakes up and he, Sierra, and Lilly play call of duty, Lilly makes everyone some popcorn, and I plan school lessons for next week. Luckily my cleaning chores were done earlier in the week. I read my bible, trying my best to focus but not really succeeding. When Mark gets up I send them all outside to play. Then I start making dinner and funnel cake. It’s around 5 by now.
Dinner is chicken noodle soup and I cooked and deboned the chicken yesterday so prep is fairly simply – chop a few veggies, throw in pot of reserved chicken broth from yesterday, boil for a while. Meanwhile I finish up the funnel cakes but Luke is getting increasingly fussy. When I finish with the funnel cakes, I take him to the bed to nurse him. It takes a while, which I play on my phone a little, reading Facebook and such. He finally falls asleep. I check on dinner and ask Emily to keep an eye on Mark while I take a bath. I get the tub half filled when Luke wakes up. I try to text Lilly to pay his back in the hopes that I could get five minutes in the bath but alas it was not to be. As soon as I sent the text message, I heard three little munchkins giggling under the trailer and felt them banging on the tub from underneath. Apparently the water drain from the tub is extremely fascinating. I heard squeals of delight as I drained the water with a sigh, having gotten about a thirty second bath.
I get Luke, take him to the den, try and corral kids but they’re pretty wild by this time. The vegetables are done in the soup so I put Luke in his bouncer letting him fuss a bit and put the noodles and the baggie of chicken into the soup as I pass by. I season it up and try to nurse him again. It’s about 7:30 or so now.
I start this post. Luke is getting really fussy. Soup should be close to done so I grab Luke up and go check the soup. It’s done so I turn it off and take Luke to the room and text our group chat for Emily, Matthew, and Lilly to get dinner and drinks served up and kids corralled. There’s a bit of bickering about who is doing more but it gets done. Luke won’t go to sleep for some reason so I take him back into the den, grabbing myself a bowl of soup as I pass by.
I try to settle down and eat my soup, still working on this post, but little man is not happy and the soup is too hot right now anyways. I try nursing him again but he will have none of it. I take him back into the den and try bouncing him with my foot while I eat dinner as quickly as possible. He continues to whimper and fuss so I pass my empty bowl off to Sierra, vaguely aware of Emily giving them baths and the teens starting kitchen clean up.
I have one more idea for Luke. I take him back to the bedroom for a stomach massage. Sure enough, his stomach is super tight with gas. After about ten minutes, I think I’ve massaged it all out and I change his diaper while the kids brush their teeth. I brush Mark’s after he’s done make sure and put him in bed. It’s 9:30 by now. I totally forget about brushing the other kids’ teeth and am now hoping they did a sufficient job! I’m such a bad mom lol…
Mark thankfully doesn’t give me many problems, other than slight resistance to bedtime. Luke is still a little fussy so I try patting his back while working on this post still. David comes to bed. I try nursing Luke again and finally he nurses and goes to sleep. Jordan, Sierra, and Lilly come in at various times asking questions like “do I have to go bed now” and such. I tell them yes, text the group chat begging someone to make me coffee and finally reach the present time.
It is 10:03. Luke is asleep but nursing, Mark is trying to sleep but occasionally rolls into my hair and tries talking to me. David is mighty quiet. He’s either asleep or staring into space. Teens are done cleaning up the kitchen. Everyone but me and Lilly are in bed trying to sleep. I let her stay up till 11 as a reward for watching her siblings when I need her during the day.
All in all I think I had..what… 45 minutes of free time distributed throughout the day and utilized for things like playing games, reading Facebook, eating, taking a bath…So yeah. I stay pretty busy. When I thought about writing this post I thought I might want to wait till a day when I had errands but then I realized practically every day is busy in its own way. You can imagine how crazy my days are when there are doctor’s appointments. My day will conclude in a couple of hours. In a few minutes I will go get myself a cup of coffee and try to fire up an episode of My Name is Earl, if the internet will cooperate. I will check games. I might even work on my book a bit. It is on my to-do list after all. I have been staying up till Shane gets home, around 11:45 and getting in bed by 1, just to repeat the whole cycle the next day at 8 am.
It’s crazy busy but I love it. I have always hated idle time. I can never day I’m bored anymore!